happiness is my default position

I’ve seen the odd comment here and there, following A Scandal in Belgravia, about Steven Moffat and his treatment of woman and how you're a bad person and a worse woman if you like it. Those comments have made me back quickly away before I exploded with rage, but they got me thinking and today, finally, it spilled out into this.

( No spoilers. My own opinions. You may disagree. That's sort of the point. )